Finding Klára

Klára's Bookshelf

The books Clara read on her journey — from trying to fix her marriage, to naming what was happening, to finding her way back to herself. Curated by Orsi Párkányi.

Clara writing in her journal — Finding Klára

The Marriage Books

Clara read these first — trying to be a better wife, to save what she thought was worth saving. Every woman who has been where she was will recognise this shelf.

How to Win a Heart

Chad Johnson

Love and Respect in the Family

Emerson Eggerichs

His Needs, Her Needs

Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr.

Loving Him Well

Gary Thomas

The 80/80 Marriage

Nate Klemp

The Surrendered Wife

Laura Doyle

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

Dr. Laura Schlessinger

You Just Don't Understand

Deborah Tannen

Nonviolent Communication

Marshall B. Rosenberg

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

John & Julie Gottman

Also recommended by couples counsellors at Familievernkontoret.

Marriage Rules

Harriet Lerner

The High-Conflict Couple

Alan E. Fruzzetti


Understanding Herself

The books that helped Clara look inward — at her patterns, her past, and what she needed to heal.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

David Richo

The Dance of Connection

Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Anger

Harriet Lerner

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Lindsay C. Gibson

Trauma and Recovery

Judith Lewis Herman

Healing from Hidden Abuse

Shannon Thomas

Boundaries

Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend


Naming What Was Happening

The books that gave Clara language for what she had been living — the ones she couldn't stop underlining.

Why Does He Do That?

Lundy Bancroft

The book that named it.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship

Patricia Evans

Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Leslie Vernick

When Love Is a Lie

Zari Ballard

Is It Abuse?

Darby A. Strickland


The Parenting Shelf

Through everything, Clara's children were her reason. These are the books she turned to for them.

Good Inside

Dr. Becky Kennedy

Siblings Without Rivalry

Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

Raising Mentally Strong Kids

Dr. Daniel Amen & Dr. Charles Fay

There's No Such Thing as Bad Weather

Linda Åkeson McGurk

Especially meaningful in Norway.

Mothers and Daughters

Harriet Lerner

Until the Streetlights Come On

Ginny Yurich

The Opt-Out Family

Erin Loechner

Loving the Little Years

Rachel Jankovic

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

The 5 Love Languages of Children

Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell

Hold On to Your Kids

Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté

The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families

Hal Elrod, Mike McCarthy & Lindsay McCarthy

No-Drama Discipline

Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

The Tech-Wise Family

Andy Crouch

Mother and Son

Emerson Eggerichs